For years, DONMs have been asking me if I did one-to-one work, and I said no. I explained how I wasn’t qualified in counselling, that I’m just an ordinary fellow-DONM. I didn’t think I had any value to offer.

But people kept asking me would I speak with them one-to-one, and saying that my experience and perspective were my qualifications.

And so, I have been inspired to offer this service to those who would like it. DONMs are getting good results from it as you can read below.

What would you get on a coaching call with me? You would get:

  • Understanding: this may be the most important one. I understand what it’s like being raised by a narcissist, and you do not need to explain or convince me as you might have had to do with conventional therapists.
  • Validation: Again, unlike some other therapists, I will totally get what you have been through and I won’t dismiss it with platitudes about all mothers being annoying, or assuring you that she really loves you.
  • Compassion: I think all DONMs need full and genuine compassion.
  • A listening ear: Someone to really hear you.
  • Perspective: To explain events to you in light of the narcissism so that you understand them better and they begin to make sense.
  • Non-directive advice: By non-directive advice I mean I can give you alternative strategies you might not have thought about. But I am very clear that I do not push anybody in any direction. The two essential things are 1) figuring out what you want, and 2) having clear information about possibilities.

I can include Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping as part of the coaching if you wish, but the coaching stands alone as the default.

If this sounds like something you would get value from, I invite you to book via Paypal. One hour costs US$55 and an hour and a half costs US$75. (You can pay in your own currency and it’ll automatically convert.) Most people start off with one hour to get a feel for it all, and book the longer session subsequently if they need.

Once you have paid, I will contact you to arrange a time to chat online. (As this is all done manually I might not contact you absolutely immediately, with time zones’n’weekends’n’all, but rest assured that I will do so very soon.)

Please note that I am in the GMT time zone. This link will tell you what time it is for me whenever you check. We’ll have to work around that. For example, if you are in the USA, I would probably not be available in the evenings your time as that would be night time for me.

I very much look forward to working with you if this is right for you,


One hour of personal coaching $55

One hour and a half hour’s of personal coaching $75

What other DONMs say:

(All shared with permission)

You let [...] sunlight into my soul.
You validated many things for me.
There is a way out.
Nothing has shifted like it did today.
There's a sense of being acknowledged [and] understood.