Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers

Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers

Let’s co-create clarity

For years, DONMs have been asking me if I did one-to-one work, and I said no. I explained how I wasn’t qualified in counselling, that I’m just an ordinary fellow-DONM. I didn’t think I had any value to offer.

But people kept asking me would I speak with them one-to-one, and saying that my experience and perspective were my qualifications.

And so, I have been inspired to offer this service to those who would like it. DONMs are getting good results from it as you can read below.

What would you get on a coaching call with me? You would get:

  • Understanding: this may be the most important one. I understand what it’s like being raised by a narcissist, and you do not need to explain or convince me as you might have had to do with conventional therapists.
  • Validation: Again, unlike some other therapists, I will totally get what you have been through and I won’t dismiss it with platitudes about all mothers being annoying, or assuring you that she really loves you.
  • Compassion: I think all DONMs need full and genuine compassion.
  • A listening ear: Someone to really hear you.
  • Perspective: To explain events to you in light of the narcissism so that you understand them better and they begin to make sense.
  • Non-directive advice: By non-directive advice I mean I can give you alternative strategies you might not have thought about. But I am very clear that I do not push anybody in any direction. The two essential things are 1) figuring out what you want, and 2) having clear information about possibilities.

I can include Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping as part of the coaching if you wish, but the coaching stands alone as the default.

If this sounds like something you would get value from, I invite you to book via Paypal. One hour costs US$55 and an hour and a half costs US$75. (You can pay in your own currency and it’ll automatically convert.) Most people start off with one hour to get a feel for it all, and book the longer session subsequently if they need.

Once you have paid, you’ll be brought to a page where you can book a time and date that suits you.

I very much look forward to working with you if this is right for you,

Danu

p.s. Be very clear that I am NOT a qualified counsellor or therapist. This coaching is just peer support.

One hour of personal coaching $55:

Book Here

One and a half hours of personal coaching $75:

Book Here

What other DONMs say:

(All shared with permission)

"I feel both lighter and more solid within myself."

I’ve had a few sessions with Danu, and after each one I felt lighter and at the same time more solid inside myself. Danu is an extraordinary listener, with a great understanding of the challenges of having a narcissistic mother. In a world where so many people feel that they should only say positive things about their parents, it has been tremendously healing for me to be able to talk with Danu and express the trauma of my childhood. After my mother died, I found myself confused about how to think about how to remember her, and my sessions with Danu gave me great clarity.

A. Reese

"The coaching session [...] gave me so much clarity."

Thanks so much Danu,

I appreciate your help so much. The coaching session today blew my mind. Gave me so much clarity and tools to move forward. Claire Mc

"I get so much out of each session."

Dear Danu,
Thank you so much for my appointment with you yesterday. As always, it was so very helpful. I felt heard and understood. I get so much out of each session.
Andrea P, NYC

"Finally got to have the conversation I needed forever."

Hi Danu,

I wanted to let you know how much i got from the call on Thursday. I’ve honestly not ever felt so understood for what it has been like all these years, living with all of this. You helped me realise the reflexive things im doing to try to solve the unsolvable and I am finding I’m giving myself permission stop doing this and to be at peace much more than before, whatever that takes. I feel lighter physically and mentally, like the huge weight of poisonous anxiety has started to dissipate for the first time in years.

Thanks so much for sharing your time, your kindness and your wisdom with me. It’s a real comfort to know I can dip back in and have another call if I need it in the future.

Thank you so much, feel like I’ve been needing and wanting that conversation forever and finally got to have it.

Very best wishes to you, A. UK

"Your insight and advice is [...] empowering."

“thank you for our chat today. It was great talking with you. Your insight and advice is very helpful (empowering)–glad to learn a new word. It’s interesting to focus on what is deemed empowering and what isn’t. Never gave it any thought before, and feeling like I never had a right to before. Now sorting puzzle pieces. “

Linda, Cleveland, USA

"I found Danu’s insights able to give me the peace and direction that I have been longing for."

 I have come to Danu for help, with an interval of two years, first after reading Danu’s book and finally while going through the process of a growing estrangement with my mother. On both occasions, I found Danu’s insights able to give me the peace and direction that I have been longing for. I still remember how two years ago, I was talking to Danu about the fact that I feel like I am not contributing as much as I would like to, or should, to the world because I am spending so much time trying to sort out my life, and Danu told me to be kind to myself, and not compare myself to those people who are better equipped to ‘’make a difference in this world.’’ She did not try to tell me that making a difference is not a good aspiration to have, but rather that I need to see that I simply do not have the same resources. She gave me the permission to accept my limitations and for somebody taught to be very tough on herself that was liberating. That simple truth allowed to me to reduce demands on myself while taking the time to complete my journey of discovery, sadness, acceptance and eventually moving on. 

V.D. 

"The session was even more than I could have imagined, or hoped for."

Thank you so much for today. The session was even more than I could have imagined, or hoped for. It felt so natural and relaxed, like having coffee with a friend. Just one with a heck of a lot more expertise in this specific area. So now, I am feeling energised, and ‘seen’, which is another little victory, and part of my jigsaw. MJ, UK

Coaching
For years, DONMs have been asking me if I did one-to-one work, and I said no. I explained how I wasn’t qualified in counselling, that I’m just an ordinary fellow-DONM. I didn’t think I had any value to offer.

But people kept asking me would I speak with them one-to-one, and saying that my experience and perspective were my qualifications.

And so, I have been inspired to offer this service to those who would like it. DONMs are getting good results from it as you can read below.

What would you get on a coaching call with me? You would get:

  • Understanding: this may be the most important one. I understand what it’s like being raised by a narcissist, and you do not need to explain or convince me as you might have had to do with conventional therapists.
  • Validation: Again, unlike some other therapists, I will totally get what you have been through and I won’t dismiss it with platitudes about all mothers being annoying, or assuring you that she really loves you.
  • Compassion: I think all DONMs need full and genuine compassion.
  • A listening ear: Someone to really hear you.
  • Perspective: To explain events to you in light of the narcissism so that you understand them better and they begin to make sense.
  • Non-directive advice: By non-directive advice I mean I can give you alternative strategies you might not have thought about. But I am very clear that I do not push anybody in any direction. The two essential things are 1) figuring out what you want, and 2) having clear information about possibilities.

I can include Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping as part of the coaching if you wish, but the coaching stands alone as the default.

If this sounds like something you would get value from, I invite you to book via Paypal. One hour costs US$55 and an hour and a half costs US$75. (You can pay in your own currency and it’ll automatically convert.) Most people start off with one hour to get a feel for it all, and book the longer session subsequently if they need.

Once you have paid, you’ll be brought to a page where you can book a time and date that suits you.

I very much look forward to working with you if this is right for you,

Danu

p.s. Be very clear that I am NOT a qualified counsellor or therapist. This coaching is just peer support.

One hour of personal coaching $55:

Book Here

One and a half hours of personal coaching $75:

Book Here

What other DONMs say:

(All shared with permission)

You let [...] sunlight into my soul.
You validated many things for me.
There is a way out.
Nothing has shifted like it did today.
There's a sense of being acknowledged [and] understood.