Your Recovery Journey
Finding out the truth about your upbringing is only the first step. Recovering from it is the second and
arguably the more important.
I am convinced, and determined, that full recovery is possible.
I spent years looking for recovery resources - indeed, I was doing this long before I knew about
NPD. I thought I needed fixing, because that's what my narcissistic mother
effectively told me. Now I know it's recovery I need, not fixing (and the same applies to you too). But the
principle is the same - it's about getting over the old tapes and programming and living our best life.
I found terrific resources, and since setting up this website I have researched and reviewed still more recovery
resources. And I have created some too, specifically to meet the needs of DONMs.
One of the most amazing resources I've found is that of EFT. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, and
involves nothing more than gentle tapping on acupuncture points. This seemingly simple technique is
awesome for removing trauma and limiting beliefs. And so, many of these Recovery Journey resources are
based around EFT. (You can find out more about EFT here. And read testimonials about it here.)
The most powerful thing about these EFT resources is that they cause changes at a very deep level. They don't
work on the rational cognitive level because that's no use to you; they work at the deep core level where the bad
feelings and limiting beliefs live. So, for example, you can know rationally that she'll never change, but you need
to come to know it in your very core before it is true for you. EFT does that for you.
Recovery Resources:
The Recovery Resources fall into different categories:
First of all, there is our vibrant and supportive forum. This well-moderated and
high-functioning support group is changing lives.
The second category helps you deal with the emotional
challenges you face due to being raised by a narcissistic mother. We all experience the
same types of issues, and I have created and sourced EFT programs (and other resources too) so you can shift those
issues. I suggest you read down through the list and see which, if any, of the challenges resonate with you.
The third category is for physical challenges. The fact
that there's a mind-body connection is very clear indeed, and many DONMs suffer from physical problems which are
directly related to stress and trauma. There are resources for healing them here.
Emotional Challenges
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Erase the useless hope that she'll change and become the mother you
want. |
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Erase your blocks to taking care of your self-care, and
other, needs. |
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"Seven Words To Change Your Life" - an awesome Tapping Affirmation
that undoes years of cruel brainwashing about your true authentic self. |
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Erase your urge to harm yourself and punish yourself. |
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Erase the guilt you feel at the thought of going No Contact or Low
Contact. |
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Erase the hurt that she dropped you and let you go so
easily. |
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Erase your fear of her - claim your power and see her for the
pathetic bully she really is. |
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Erase the hurt that she never loved you, and come to a calm
and serene acceptance of that fact. |
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Erase the grief and bereavement of the loss of your narcissistic
mother and/or extended family, and come to a place of calm acceptance. |
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Erase the feeling of never fitting in or belonging anywhere.
What you feel, you project, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Change that negative loop with
this resource. |
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Erase the feeling of always feeling unworthy. She taught
you that, and it's not true, and you need to relearn it. |
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Erase the feeling that there is something inherently
flawed about you. |
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Erase the fear of getting into trouble. |
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Erase the feeling of always feeling like a little girl. |
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Erase the lack of Inner Authority. |
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Erase your low self-esteem. |
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Tap in Self-Love. You deserve to love yourself. This resource
will help you do that. |
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Erase your blocks to accepting praise. DONMs can be very
uncomfortable accepting praise, and can even sabotage their successes to avoid it. This resource solves
that problem. |
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Clear
Your Childhood Trauma - EFT is superb for erasing trauma. I was going to create an EFT
Script for this, but could not possibly improve on this resource from Rick Wilkes and Cathy
Vartuli. |
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Free
Yourself From Inner Confusion And Fear - Another excellent resource from Rick Wilkes
and Cathy Vartuli, to help you feel safe in your body and learn to live your life vibrantly and
vitally. |
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Getting
Unstuck Stuck might be a DONM's middle name,
right? Part of the awful legacy of our upbringing. It's exhausting to try to break through using
willpower, and eventually we'll run out of the energy to do that. This resource helps you get
unstuck naturally.
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Self Sabotage Removing Your Subconcious Blocks - And
Self-Sabotage might be a DONM's other middle name ... It's totally
understandable, given our upbringing. This resource helps you remove your subconcious blocks to
success.
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From Overwhelm To Clarity - Are you exhausted by distressing and
anxiety-ridden feelings… that leave you with no clear direction? Instead of feeling overwhelmed and
stressed because a project is due, would you like to feel surprisingly calm… moving confidently
from one step to the next?
This resource will help you with that.
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Stress Relief - Chronic, long term stress is very hard on the body and
mind. It can lead to irritability, exhaustion, difficulty in concentrating, and physical symptoms
such as headache, racing heart, fatigue, and body aches.
This program helps solve three of the sources of stress: broken boundaries, overwhelm, and
criticism. Click
here for more info.
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Learning To Play - DONMs sometimes have trouble with
playing. Many of us weren't allowed to be children.
If you want to bring out your playful spirit, but you can hear the Voice of Disapproval in your
head, let’s use Energy Tapping (EFT) to clear them so you can feel FREE to PLAY! Click
Here For More Info.
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How To Overcome Loneliness - This deceptively
simple book (it's only 28 pages long) holds the key to overcoming your loneliness. The exercises are
also deceptively simple, but don't let that fool you. Try them and see for yourself. Full money back
guarantee so you're risking nothing. Click here
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Your Physical Challenges:
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Pain Relief With EFT - Pain Relief with EFT is an empowering, comprehensive
coaching program designed to bring you relief in your body and mind by: raising your vibration,
showing you how to master your focus, and exercising your self-healing systems using EFT, a cutting
edge Energy Tapping technique.
These resources are designed to help you raise your vibration and feel better no matter what
your physical challenge is. More
info here.
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Fibromyalgia and
Chronic Fatique Syndrome
Many of the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers on my forum suffer from fibromyalgia and chronic
fatique syndrom. To the best of my knowledge there is no proven link between these (and other
similar) issues and abuse, but I do wonder ... it does seem that there is a possible link.
Several members of my forum have recommended Ashok Gupta's Amygdala Retraining Programme. (USA Canada. Europe
customers Click here.)
I stress that I have not used this resource myself, so I am not personally recommending it.
However, several of my forum members have used it, and have been very impressed by it, so I am
passing along their recommendation.
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Other Resources:
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