Others' comments

Alex

Well, I just finished my Day 2 of the exercise. Yesterday, I had written to our dear Danu, requesting the video, along with a ready-made excuse why I might wish to delay beginning the programme.

I thought I'd just "observe" the video a couple of times, and take a few days to really prepare my self to commit to following through...

But yesterday, shortly after receiving the link from Danu, and within the first 8 seconds of beginning the video, I found myself automatically following along. The pace was soothing, the voice so gentle, the timing so perfect, allowing for me to repeat each statement before hearing the next one.

The script is absolutely ideal for this self-harm/DoNM stuff! It's specific enough to target this particular phenomenon, but broad enough for each person to apply to her own particular penchant for self-harm/neglect/punishment. A superb job, Danu; thank you so much!

For now, per your advisement, I am going to simply follow the 12-minute daily tapping regimen. The message I'm getting is that the tapping gets rid of the bad stuff, making room for the new good stuff. So it's not about me "forcing" myself to change behaviors (other than to sincerely and regularly practice the tapping? -- is this correct? For now?)...

Rae

[In response to me, Danu, saying I was being more gentle with myself and nurturing of myself]

I noticed the same thing this morning while shaving my legs! None of the usual impatience and “let's get this done already” attitude, just a really nice calm. So cool to experience!

Also notice more energy and clear-headedness in the morning, which is a big change for me. I've started eating a small potato before bed at night (recommended in a book called Potatoes not Prozac) so that could be helping, too.

Just finished . . . and must admit that I felt a bit silly at first, having never tapped before, but I very soon felt the power of the process:  after about 3 minutes in, I found myself just really tuned in to the message . . . does that make sense?

Thank you Danu and Christine for mentioning obsessive web-surfing as a form of self-sabotage . . . it never occurred to me but it's something I'd really like to change. I've been procrastinating about giving myself a pedicure for days now (though I did manage the mani!). It'll be interesting to see when/if that changes. My NM hated “messes,” and soaking your feet can be a colossal mess . . . is that it? Doing anything for us always seemed like such a burden to her, it's so sad to realize how often I treat myself the same way.

Thanks again for making this available, Danu!

Hopefulgirl

Hi Danu,
I am only a few days into the tapping, but even after the first session I felt stronger around NM - as I had to see her a couple of times this weekend. I was more aware of my own nervousness and how I am always waiting for her to be angry. I managed to not care yesterday, when she made a remark about us being a few minutes late to my son's baseball game. I talked about an upcoming vacation in front of her without caring how she would feel about it. I feel more centered and relaxed and I feel more aware of the self-punishment urge, which I think for me takes the form of near-constant anxiety. I also noticed it around my husband, that I could feel more self-confident and express myself without worrying that he wasn't going to like it. So, small shifts, so far so good.

If you'd like results like this, I invite you to check Tap Away The Urge To Self-Harm for yourself: